Traditional installation, hammered in the head mothers, women internalize so that even once they have no doubt and truly believe, for example, that with the right scenario you can rehabilitate hardened womanizer or be forced to stop drinking alcoholic.
Whether so it actually? Tells family psychologist, consultant on interpersonal relations, the Director of the Agency of acquaintances "me and you" Elena Kuznetsova.
If a man introduces the mother, it is configured for a serious relationship
1st and one of the most famous traditional misinterpretations of the question of the fairer sex. Familiarity with the mother of the young man says nothing at all. For example, sissy I love to imagine her own women, because for them this is the norm: it is necessary that the mother is assessed.
Other representatives of the stronger sex, in principle, not embarrassed parents and schools are accustomed to acquaint them with all available women. Mothers of these guys are serenely to similar Dating, to the young women often configured complacent, but it has absolutely no effect on the gravity relations of the pair.
Except in meet the parents can only be a situation where those who once communicated with his son, asked him not to bring home all their young women, but only the one he deems worthy. If your representative of the stronger sex and his mother and father really was such a deal, you're in luck - the guy really treats you with the utmost seriousness.
To keep a man, you need to sleep with him
The representative of the stronger sex do not fall in love with the fairer sex, if not try it in bed, as the initial basis of male relations to the young woman's physiology. Sex to the opposite sex is very important, in consequence of this representative of the stronger sex perceives the lady at first visually, and then only ready to consider her spiritual. To understand the lady, the representative of the stronger sex tends to get a woman into bed, this is a stage: "mine or not mine". And to what extent the right lady, she will be able to "catch" a man if sleeps with him. But unfortunately the plan was not entirely true. In 1-x, the representative of the stronger sex will never be a lady, if she's not his type. In-2, if the fairer sex doesn't suit the representative of the stronger sex in the bed, he would leave her without a twinge of conscience.
"A man's attitude to sex easier, at the level of physiology. Directly because spontaneous sex on the side, they often do not consider cheating. "Everything was by chance, I only love you alone" - the traditional phrase of the guilty partner. The ladies in terms of sex all the way around, at all of them globally. Traditionally, when women decide on sex, they're fully "baked onto" the representative of the stronger sex, and primarily emotional. Therefore, sex for the ladies is an important chord: "I give myself". And exactly here lies the root of women's misinterpretation of the question. The fair regiment judge about the ratio of men to sex with his bell, immediately therefore believe that the partner can keep the intimacy," summed up Elena Kuznetsova.
If you get pregnant, he would marry me
To think so is utopia. If the lady thus wants to get married a man who long ago promised her to divorce, but still can not keep the obligation, that tiny hope in connection with the pregnancy she has to. And then, if we are talking about a man who really has a difficult relationship with his wife and that really psychologically ready to leave the family. If the representative of the stronger sex psychologically is not ready to divorce and later to marry his mistress, it can at least give birth to 15 children, in the best case it will be in later just to help the woman.
As for the inhabitants of our planet, not burdened by marriage, here also all is not perfect. If a young woman become pregnant, expects to marry a young man, then she should be prepared for the fact that her intentions may fail. First of all, the representative of the stronger sex can not marry, but simply to record the baby's own name and to offer civil marriage. In-2, if we are talking about the Octomom's son, he first asked the advice of his mother. And if that would be against marriage, the pregnant girlfriend of the son is likely to remain a single mother. In addition, if we declare macho who used to handle this himself, then a lot depends on the particular it solution. If the representative of the stronger sex nothing is going to change in your own life, no wedding, no matter what. If he's ready to family relationships, young women have a chance to marry his beloved.
"When a woman gives birth out of wedlock, she takes full responsibility, the result of this specific lady is obliged in advance to think 100 times, whether it is ready to birth the baby or not. The lady does not need a priori to expect the man, because not necessarily that he will marry her or at least continue a relationship with her. Maybe 1 out of 10 the man can get marry, if you become pregnant, but for 9 other people is not an option. With the words: "You knew what was going on", the representative of the stronger sex, who didn't want the baby, can easily disappear from your life," says the psychologist.
Be active, man should win
In case you want to see next to a strong faithful man, the idea of its conquest into fundamentally wrong. However if the fairer sex suit "tetelestai" partner, it is possible to achieve it quite really. He does not mind if the woman takes the initiative. In addition favorably to the women's initiative are lazy representatives of the stronger sex, which a woman put it crudely cute, but are too lazy to win her heart. With all this, they are ready for a relationship, suddenly all the woman herself satisfied. And the 3rd kind of guys that can be won by consumers. Them at all anyway, looks like the lady (not very terrible), but it must create the partner comfortable conditions. Here on the 1st plan out the cynicism, pragmatism and convenience.
Relying on "the meatball", a sloth, or pragmatics, do not forget that we should not continue to wait for feats from him. Such representatives of the stronger sex will not give you any attention or care. The head in such a relationship until the last moment remains a lady.
Excellent lady a man will reform
To re-educate a man, of course, impossible, but a little "Polish" it by, in addition at any age. But there is one thing. "Polishing" can only those men who are actually interested in the fairer sex. If the values representative of the stronger sex partner, then you can train him to be more sensitive, to attach to the common practice in household chores etc. In that case, if the lady once gained for itself a man, correction, he did not succumb. And will be right: "It's you I wanted what you now require?".
"To conquer a man and later to re-educate him is a waste of time. The fairer sex has managed to keep about a partner due to the fact only that they offered him a cozy conditions that gave it. So then to achieve something from the conquered men, the lady will stoop to blackmail. For example, if you don't do this or that, it will lose, say, lunch. And this is the only possible way to communicate in this situation, for the following reasons, the representative of the stronger sex initially used the fairer sex, and she agreed with it. And here at once there are business relations," interpreting consultant on interpersonal relationships.
The representatives of the stronger sex can not arrange scandals
It's very possible, and indeed necessary. But that's not often. Men need from time to time to "cheer up" and Express their support. If you hold grudges, in the end, we have collected enough to break the relationship.
"By no means it is impossible to speak about what you do not like. It is necessary to classify the partner of their point of view. Many are afraid of scandal to damage the relationship, but it is a utopia. This is the beginning of the end. It is necessary to understand the situation to lead her to a standstill. The comfort of life consists of understanding each other. As each other to understand, if people don't discuss issues? We need to give "guidance" about yourself - what you like, what you don't like," recommends Elena Kuznetsova.
Marriage drunkard will osteopenic
In any case do not believe drinking the representatives of the stronger sex, who vowed to "engage" with strong drinks, when you get married. If people decided to stop drinking, he will do it regardless of anything. And if a young man promises the girl to stepenice immediately after his marriage, then he's just cheating on her. Such shasanmi guy wants to justify their own weakness and to delay the moment of parting with addiction.
Another was cheating, and I will not be
This is a definite misinterpretation of the question, for the following reasons, if the representative of the stronger sex been married and was on her infidelity with the spouse of the previous, the current passion from booze partner is not insured. For Lovelace infidelity is the norm. He will calm down when they can't run around with women love because of his men's insolvency.
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