Married to "dad"

Why a beautiful young woman prefers a man enough to be her father, or even grandfather? Biologists firmly declare that it is the stratagem rationally, and give future children the best chance in terms of evolutionary development.

As often, facing such a pair, we wonder why the plausible young a young woman loves a man enough to be her father or even grandfather and whose best years are already behind? We, obviously, immediately suspect a Mercantile interest, experts on the psychology diagnosed with "daddy issues", but biologists confidently say that this is the stratagem rationally, and give future children the best chance in the sense of evolutionary development.

We know many examples of successful marriages with a large age difference in the field of art and show business. Oleg Tabakov, Andrei Konchalovsky, Sergei Shakurov are older than their own chosen 30 years. In Hollywood, it's Michael Douglas with Catherine Zeta-Jones, woody Allen and his adopted daughter soon-And, Nicolas cage and Alice Kim the waitress and Joan Collins with husband Percy Gibson. But how happy they were, we can only judge by the photos in glossy magazines and a short interview in the TV show. But in real life among your own circle we find such couples in the highest degree rare. First and foremost, we are convinced that in this Union more calculation than love. So what did they expect?

He is afraid of old age

A large number of complexes and little love hides behind such pairs, say experts on psychology. Among other things the lack of a shared past is considered to be a significant factor. And not primarily attracts older seniors "young meat". Much more he didn't want to be on the same level with lady. He likes the role of protector and parent, and he longs for their own bygone youth. He is afraid of strong ladies and replaces them with less than equal partner - many times more young, inexperienced, and primarily secured worse.

It seems to him that the girl he will be able to postpone aging that's scared away. He compensates for his own increasingly falling testosterone levels, that her social benefits and social facilities, and in response receives its youth. And the young lady perceives fickle potency own middle-aged partner as a particularly delicate and fragile love. Similarly young ambitious young women jointly with husband capital gain and the effect of, and the opportunity to participate in the business life of the spouse that at least because of her youth and activity gives her power over him, because the fear of losing her will only grow from year to year.

It is fenomenalno, but older men, choosing the young young women, sometimes suffer from the "parent complex". Alternatively, he seeks in the girl own mother, who will always be with him - that is the explanation of specialists in psychology. The lady who ironed his shirts, make some peppermint tea when he has a stomach ache, pack his suitcase when he goes on a business trip, and will make sure that he took medication.

She chooses the experience

And she? What she wants? The majority of young women, of course, dream of attractive cars, furs and jewels as decoration their own youth and beauty, but more Mature women don't want to do "inferior goods". One thing is clear: the fairer sex, looking for already Mature, with old representatives of the stronger sex will be serene. Also, an older partner is not only sexually more experienced and open to new, first more has to offer in spiritual terms. His calm strong movement, which is primarily due to limited physical activity of the body, giving a sense of security and loyalty. And he well that his appearance in society with a lady that yuan it fascinates others. If he, in addition to all this, maybe, despite his age, to produce "offspring", it would serve as obvious proof that he is still true man. Therefore the Union of youth and maturity for both party is happy. She is a shining jewel, and he is a tycoon.

If you look from another angle, in women in such marriages often have a "father complex". Statistics show that daughters of mothers who were raising them alone, often find a replacement dad. With a new "daddy" the child in her soul wants to fill what he lacked in childhood. She customizes my life with the spouse, sleep with him when he wants it, and often for the sake of it denies the desire to have children, maybe because he already has them or because he doesn't have time for it.

The girls who got lucky with dad so much that he became their idol and masculine, can have a so-called "Electra complex". This young woman will be a long time to sort out the boys in search of the perfect partner who will satisfy her high standards. She will be looking for experienced, empathetic, caring and, most importantly, disinterested partner, which among other things is not very sexy, because sex with a "father" is taboo. The elderly representative of the stronger sex there is a greater chance of success, and in this situation it turns out public marriage, where the spouses between great and good relations, eliminating the intimate sphere. But here, probably, sincerely loving wife, the lady can afford to Supplement important side in silent consent of her husband.

A good combination

At that time, as the old value in such alliances to assess their manhood, the ladies need even more unpresentable: let he takes her and her needs seriously, he remains more in the shadows is many young women think extremely attractive. And the ladies over 30, which relationship was in the stress the result of hard work, in addition, appreciate a sense of peace, confidence and security.

Psychotherapists consider the Union of the old and the young meaningful. Her physical freshness and experience, moreover, backed up by a good amount of foreign exchange capital, give to the coming offspring of the appropriate chances for development and life. The psychologist David Brass from the University of Texas at Austin surveyed more than 10,000 boys and girls of different cultures, what they value most in a partner. Most of the difference between the sexes was reflected in the question of the age. In all cultures men wanted younger partner yourself, and ladies, on the contrary, the man more advanced age. Married men wish women aged 24 to 28 years old, what do you mean, exactly at the peak of their fertility. After this point the age of the "desired ladies" more and more reduced. In other words, from a biological point of view, the representatives of the stronger sex tend to have the fairer sex that is fertile.

Anyway, it would be foolish to think that the infirmity of the body can affect the strength of the spirit. And what background pushed the inhabitants of our planet on unequal marriages - love the designs, they can be happy and happen often, because each finds in them what he seeks.

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