The `Desperate Housewives` actress - who filed for divorce from the basketball player in November 2010 - does not bare a grudge to him and likes to hold on to the positives from their three-year marriage. She told America`s InStyle magazine: "One thing I did learn is you don’t hold on to the bitterness of the loss; you hang on to the beauty of the love. Remember all the good things. There was a reason you met someone and a reason why you were together." The brunette beauty - who separated from Tony amid allegations he cheated on her with Erin Barry, the now ex-wife of his former teammate Brent Barry -recently insisted she has no bad feelings towards her former spouse. She explained: "Marriage in my family is really a sacred sacrament. It wasn`t something we did frivolously. But, you know, I guess the relationship ran its course, and so many people want me to hate him or want to just destroy him. And I don`t. I wish nothing but the best for him. He`s not a bad person. He just wanted something else." Eva - who has been married once before to `General Hospital` star Tyler Christopher - would not go into detail about why she and Tony, 28, split. She said: "There was a reason why we got married. There was a reason why we fell in love. There was a reason why we were together seven years . I would never speak publicly about what happened or why we got divorced, because I love him and we still talk. We still are in each other`s life."